You speak of a theory of choice is years, but I know I’ve never really explained what Choice Theory. Choice Theory is actually an explanation of all human behavior developed by Dr. William Glasser.
There are five main elements of the theory of basic needs of man, the world of quality, the perceived world, the place to compare and total behavior. I give a brief overview of each, starting with the five basic needs of man.
Basic human needs
We are born with five basic needs of survival, love and belonging, power, freedom and pleasure. We are all born with these needs, but we experience them to varying degrees. A person can have a high degree of love and belonging, while another person raised in freedom. We are born with these needs and are biologically driven, they met to get the best we have.
The quality of the world
This is a place that exists in all of us if we are images of things that store one or more of our basic needs in the past or things they think we may have to perform in the future satisfies. These things are defined, not the quality company to justice. Alcohol is the world in the quality of an alcoholic, steeling cars in the world, the quality of a car theft and domestic violence is a Batten to the quality of the world. The only two requirements to enter the world of quality, it meets one or more of our needs and it feels good.
The perceived world
There is much to say about the perceived world but for the purposes of this article, all I am saying is that we create our own world to have. Our system takes sensory information through sight, touch, hearing, taste and smell, but we all have unique ways of processing that information on our life experiences, our culture and our values.
What main point is to reflect on the perceived world, that when you encounter others whose perceived world does not correspond to yours, does not mean that it is wrong for you. This simply means that you are different. Remember this statement is simply to reduce much of the disagreements and fighting that occurs in people’s lives. Accepting this fact would mean that you can convince of the need to prevent others from our point of view. We could simply accept the fact that we see things differently and move forward.
Place comparison
The comparison is where we evaluate what we want our world against the quality of our perceptions of what we think we actually get. If these two things that are a match, so good.
If we do not on the perception and the quality of the world, in other words, we perceive, we are not in possession of what we want, then we are obliged to take steps to get the things we think about it. People in general are not much progress or change things they do at present when they are in some discomfort is greatest pain of a more motivated to try something else.
This is where conventional wisdom tells us that if we want what is good for other people in our lives, then it is our responsibility to raise their level of pain to get them to do things differently, because we generally know what is best for them. Right?
Wrong. We can not know what is best for us. Remember, we noticed that all the different worlds. We value and unique experiences. How do we know what is best for someone, if we were in their place or have lived their life? We can not know what is best for us.
Total Behavior
There are two important things about the behavior. The first is that any behavior is deliberate and two is that behavior is as a whole. Leave us with the idea to start each behavior as a whole. There are four inseparable components of behavior of the action, thought, feeling and physiology. All this at a time in a given behavior in which we are engaged there. The first two components, acting and thinking are the only elements on which we can exercise direct control. This means that if we want to change the way we) feel or something that happens in our bodies (physiology, we must first consciously change what they think we do and how we do it.
As with any behavior as meaningful behavior is try our best to get something we want. We will never be the response to external stimuli. We continue to be proactive, to get something we want. This means that if I wanted to cry my son to clean his room and asked several times for good, I did not cry because my son drove me crazy. “I cried, because I always try my best to get them to do with what I wanted, which was cleaning his room. It seems that I’m cutting hair but an important distinction to do when you try to restore the victim to a removal of the person entitled.
The effects
Choice theory rather frees us from the idea that people are at fault. “Everything we do is trying its best to get something they want. Of course, in the process, they can break laws, violate rules and other injuries, but those are really the best side effects of how it meets their needs. We all do our best, some of us simply have better tools, resources and practices than others.
If we embrace the concepts of choice theory, then it should be our task to educate and help others, even the effectiveness of their own behavior. Knowing that they often continue to do everything exactly as it is known and / or because of what they do is real, it’s something they want. This is not our job to stop them, and it is our duty to save them from the consequences of their own behavior.
We can only try our best to help others, the effectiveness of their behavior and another way that does not violate the rules or may not hurt the person or someone else tells them to vote. Then we must do on the way and let them out of the situation. This may be difficult to do as you do your job, as parents, teachers, counselors or supervisor, but I wonder what is the alternative?
If you or to compel or coerce another person to bribe to do things he or she does not try, you can succeed. You can click on the right side, you will find the wages or to make a painful enough consequence to another person what you want, but you create resentment and breed contempt. Affected your relationship to have. If you think like me, is that the ratio of the root of all influence, then you lose the ability to influence from external control.